Thursday, December 18, 2014
India
So I came to India with no expectations and no judgements. All I know was I loved their food, love their fashion and love my husband.
Parking space availabe? - 'perhaps' as they shake their head from side to side, all this with no expression on their faces.
Peeing in the streets by the male gender appears to be the normal course of action here in India, my concern is if men pee as much as I have seen them on a daily basis, what do the woman do when they are in need of a bathroom brake? Am I to assume the women just don't pee as much as the men, or are they better at holding it. Men in India pee as much as there are liquor stores on Church Ave in Brooklyn, NY.
As much as I would find these things I speak about to be funny, they are serious issues here in India. I laugh at some, but with others I am crying inside. I mean just like any other country, for instance, Guyana, SA, there are also some serious issues there as well. Poverty, unemployment to name a few. India has its own issues like any other country, poverty, unemployment, crime and they have some of the most breath taking monumental sites; for instance the Tah Mahal, Lotus Temple and the Harmandir Sahib. They are worth seeing, but if you are squeamish, meaning easily nauseated or sickened, stay the hell home. But if you are adventurous come and experience a place which has a beauty of its own, like any other country.
They say if you can drive in New York, you can drive anywhere, that is a lie. Come to India and try driving here then talk to me about driving. It is deliberate that no one drives within the provided lines on the road. Most roads don't even have lines, so why even bother with the tgat do have lines. Driving is some form of art/skill, you have to have to be able to drive here. I can't begin to explain how it is done. If you get motion sickness, stay where you are, don't come to India, because walking is not an option. Even being a perdestrain is an art form. You just have to know how to bob and weave.
YouTube does not do the drivimg here justic, but you can get a pretty good idea of what it is like. Even being a passenger, you have to know how to bob and weave. Horn blowing is constant and is permitted. Signs are written on big trucks and cars "horn please". It is af if you don't honk even in the wrong, yoy are wri ng some how.
Parking space availabe? - 'perhaps' as they shake their head from side to side, all this with no expression on their faces.
Peeing in the streets by the male gender appears to be the normal course of action here in India, my concern is if men pee as much as I have seen them on a daily basis, what do the woman do when they are in need of a bathroom brake? Am I to assume the women just don't pee as much as the men, or are they better at holding it. Men in India pee as much as there are liquor stores on Church Ave in Brooklyn, NY.
As much as I would find these things I speak about to be funny, they are serious issues here in India. I laugh at some, but with others I am crying inside. I mean just like any other country, for instance, Guyana, SA, there are also some serious issues there as well. Poverty, unemployment to name a few. India has its own issues like any other country, poverty, unemployment, crime and they have some of the most breath taking monumental sites; for instance the Tah Mahal, Lotus Temple and the Harmandir Sahib. They are worth seeing, but if you are squeamish, meaning easily nauseated or sickened, stay the hell home. But if you are adventurous come and experience a place which has a beauty of its own, like any other country.
They say if you can drive in New York, you can drive anywhere, that is a lie. Come to India and try driving here then talk to me about driving. It is deliberate that no one drives within the provided lines on the road. Most roads don't even have lines, so why even bother with the tgat do have lines. Driving is some form of art/skill, you have to have to be able to drive here. I can't begin to explain how it is done. If you get motion sickness, stay where you are, don't come to India, because walking is not an option. Even being a perdestrain is an art form. You just have to know how to bob and weave.
YouTube does not do the drivimg here justic, but you can get a pretty good idea of what it is like. Even being a passenger, you have to know how to bob and weave. Horn blowing is constant and is permitted. Signs are written on big trucks and cars "horn please". It is af if you don't honk even in the wrong, yoy are wri ng some how.
Friday, September 14, 2012
“I want a White Man”
“I want a White Man”
I am so sick and tired of
our black sisters saying their next boyfriend is going to be white
man. “My next boyfriend is going to be White Man”, like
it's a privilege or something; I am not sure what that even means.
When a black woman’’s relationship ends with a black man, it
always seems that they are sworn off 'ALL' BLACK
MEN. So the entire Black race of men is no good; then they turn
to 'White Men'. They never say “My next boyfriend
is going to be Chinese, or African, or Indian, or a Hispanic
man... ” What is wrong with all the other races?
White men are considered
to be privileged and because of their prestige and power, they
believe they are entitled and therefore believe they can do and get
anything and if they don't, they just take it, cast in point, Robert
Chambers (1986).1
I am not saying all white men, but this is a known fact about them.
However, white man are no more privileged than any other race, Black,
Indian, Hispanic, they are all the same. But our black sisters, seems
to think they will be treated differently; 'better' even, if they
date a white man. Don't be fooled my sisters, don't all relationships
begin with a “fairytale?
Here are some
statistics Ladies:
According to DC Coalition
Against Domestic Violence (2012), Only
about half of domestic violence against women incidents are reported
to police. African-American women are more likely than others to
report their victimization to police. The most common reasons for not
reporting domestic violence to police are that victims view the
incident as a personal or private matter, or they fear
retaliation.2
This is not to say that white
women; or women of other races who are dating or are married to a
white man are not being victimized by white men, they are just not
reporting it. But while
men from all backgrounds kill their spouses, affluent white men are
represented in the ranks of our most infamous mass murderers. In
other words, the less privileged you are, the less likely you are to
take your violence outside of your family and your community.
Most mass (massacre) Murderers
are Privileged White Men (Laurie
Essig, The Chronicle of Higher Education (2012).3
Let's face it ladies,
at the end of the day, we all want someone who is going to treat us
with respect, who loves us and want to be with us. But if we are not
respecting ourselves, if we don't love ourselves, then why would any
man black or white treat us any differently from any other race. If
what we don't allow, or accept in a relationship with a black man,
why then should we accept it or allow it with any other race? We say
that black men are liars, they cheat on their women and they don't
respect and treat their women as queens. Ladies: Are we truly
behaving like the queens we claim we want to be? It is not even a
fair statement to say that black men lie. All men lie!
The fact of the matter is women lie too. But, to say that black men
do this and that, and to believe that white men don't - is a bucket
load of crap, men are all the same, Black, White, Hispanic,
Chinese... Trust me I know what I am talking about I've dated a few.
Listen, as humans
on the whole, we should not be lumped together because of the colour
of our skin, or the colour of our eyes or the type (texture) of hair,
but as individuals and by our character. Yes, yes I know, we all do
it on a daily basis, it is called judging. We do it every day whether
we want to admit it or not, whether we realize it or not. But to say
that an entire race of men are bad news because you have had bad
relationships with a few of them -- is wrong. There are
still a few good men out there. Ladies we need to look at ourselves
and find out what we are doing in our relationships with our black
men that is allows them to treat us in a way that turns us away from
an entire race. I am not saying not to date outside of your race, far
be it from me to give that kind of advice. But we need to improve
upon
ourselves, work on the
good and fix the parts we know need fixing, to attract any man; and
we all want a good man. Right!?. A
little change within ourselves can attract the type of man we
deserve in our lives, Black, White, Chinese, Indian or Hispanic...
_____________________
3 http://chronicle.com/blogs/brainstorm/mass-murder-and-the-culture-of-madness/50597
Friday, September 7, 2012
Out of Sorts
What do you do when you are in a funk and you feel you just can't get
over it?
Have
you ever felt out of sorts and not sure why? Ever felt you needed to
be doing something but not sure what? Feeling disconnected... (a
state of being where we don’t feel safe and present and
integrated). At
times when you have these feelings and not sure what to do about it,
you ask yourself 'what
to do about it?'
Am I the only one feeling this way,? Na can't be. So you call up a
friend, a brother or a sister, a buddy and talk to them just to have
someone listen to you. I don't want to be judged, I want to be
listened to, I don't want negative feedback, I just need an ear. I
may not even want a solution, just someone who understands what I am
going through. Trust me, don't we already know the answers? In talking I may find out that they too may have had these
feelings at some point of their lives. Wow, what a relief.
When you feel you are the only one going through STUFF, and you
feel you are the only one that is going crazy, it puts you in such
a place of confusion and you can't understand why this is all
happening to just
you. You start to worry and stress, you try to find ways to get out
of your funk. So you try to put things in perspective, you first try
to talk to yourself about what is going on, then you try talking to
someone else. Talking is a very important tool, it is a coping mechanism
for some of us , (me) that helps us to deal with what we going through. When
you talk or say things out loud or have someone say the things we may
already know to be true, it gives us a form of release and puts us
at ease.
So
when we feel out of sorts at times and not sure what to do, talk it
out.; if not with yourself , find a buddy. Find someone who will listen and not judge. Someone who will
validate your feelings. Sometimes, it is as small as that, we just
need someone to listen to us.
That is my take on it – share with me how you deal when you are
feeling out or sorts and disconnected.
Question for the Day
Ask yourself this question.
Should our professions define who we are as a person, should our careers, our job, define us as human being?
Should we always have our professional caps on? What if I want to shut off and shut down from it all, am I allowed?
Should our professions define who we are as a person, should our careers, our job, define us as human being?
Should we always have our professional caps on? What if I want to shut off and shut down from it all, am I allowed?
Tuesday, August 14, 2012
Thursday, July 26, 2012
Insomnia - Who is having this problem?
Insomnia (or sleeplessness) is an individual's report of sleeping difficulties. While the term is sometimes used in sleep literature to describe a disorder demonstrated by polysomnographic
evidence of disturbed sleep, insomnia is often defined as a positive
response to either of two questions: "Do you experience difficulty
sleeping?" or "Do you have difficulty falling or staying asleep?"
Thus, insomnia is most often thought of as both a sign and a sympto that can accompany several sleep, medical, and psychiatric disorders, characterized by persistent difficulty falling asleep and/or staying asleep or sleep of poor quality. Insomnia is typically followed by functional impairment while awake. One definition of insomnia is "difficulties initiating and/or maintaining sleep, or nonrestorative sleep, associated with impairments of daytime functioning or marked distress for more than 1 month." Insomnia can occur at any age, but it is particularly common in the elderly.
Insomnia can be grouped into primary and secondary, or comorbid, insomnia. Primary insomnia is a sleep disorder not attributable to a medical, psychiatric, or environmental cause. A complete diagnosis will differentiate between:
My niece suffers with Insomnia, she has not had sleep in a while and this keeps her up all night or she is just not able to stay asleep.
Thus, insomnia is most often thought of as both a sign and a sympto that can accompany several sleep, medical, and psychiatric disorders, characterized by persistent difficulty falling asleep and/or staying asleep or sleep of poor quality. Insomnia is typically followed by functional impairment while awake. One definition of insomnia is "difficulties initiating and/or maintaining sleep, or nonrestorative sleep, associated with impairments of daytime functioning or marked distress for more than 1 month." Insomnia can occur at any age, but it is particularly common in the elderly.
Insomnia can be grouped into primary and secondary, or comorbid, insomnia. Primary insomnia is a sleep disorder not attributable to a medical, psychiatric, or environmental cause. A complete diagnosis will differentiate between:
- insomnia as secondary to another condition,
- primary insomnia co-morbid with one or more conditions, or
- free-standing primary insomnia.
My niece suffers with Insomnia, she has not had sleep in a while and this keeps her up all night or she is just not able to stay asleep.
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